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Why Toxic Men hate the Friendzone: Doc Jazz’s Candy Wrapped Poison

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We are living in the time of the independent woman. If we try to imagine how our mothers and grandmothers accepted male oppression as a fact of life that can’t be changed, our minds nowadays draw a blank. How were they able to cope with it? Well, those days are gone forever, and rightly so.

However, we must also realize we still have a long way to go. Even ‘modern’ men still tend to try to impose their patriarchal toxic habits upon us. While the rules of society have slowly started to adapt towards what is fair and just, many men still just seem to be refusing to play along.

We don’t have to analyze the words of extreme examples like Andrew Tate, to get an idea of where the blockages in the male mind reside. After all, he already gets canceled for his frequent misogynist blurts, by the majority of society.  

In fact, I think it is much more important to analyze what is still considered ‘normal’ by the majority. How open minded are the (somewhat) decent males who are around us? The men that we accept to interact with? Is their mind still prehistoric? Do they still see us as inferior, or even as their ‘property’? That is the male toxicity we should be trying to detect, and address. That is where the real challenge lies.

This is why when I ran into a song on Youtube called ‘Friendzone’, by some artist named Doc Jazz, I felt compelled to write something about it. The song itself is actually quite catchy in terms of melody and beat, and the responses to it all look positive, but to my genuine irritation, quite a few of them are from women. This irked me because when I got into the lyrics that can be followed in the music video, I painfully stumbled upon the typical male toxicity that I believe is still prevalent among men everywhere.

It makes me think: did no one notice that? Why didn’t anyone bother to comment on it?

It doesn’t really matter that Doc Jazz is not exactly famous, although when I did some research he did turn out to have a Facebook following of well over 100K. What matters, is how widespread this kind of attitude is, among modern men. He stuck out his neck with this supposedly ‘cute’ song, and it just happens to be the perfect example of what I wish to illustrate. Poison in a candy wrapper.

Insidious toxicity, I believe, is actually worse than the overt kind. When Andrew Tate talks, you can easily point out where he steps over the line. Then, you can move in to expose it, and oppose it. With the type of hidden male toxicity that is embedded in the mindset of men like Doc Jazz, this is a much harder task.

So, it’s a cheerful song? And now everything is fine? Well, let’s read between the lines.

Basically, in Doc Jazz’s song, he brags about proudly getting ‘out of the friendzone’. His implicit hint towards other men to do exactly the same, is pretty obvious. So the message of the song clearly is: don’t be a friend to women, if you get nothing from them. The ‘nothing’ obviously but implicitly meaning ‘romantic’ or ‘sexual’. Here we go again! So, did we really advance from the Stone Age?

Doesn’t it say enough that people, including women, are cheering on the message of this song? Doesn’t that tell you that we still haven’t advanced as much as we think?

Why can’t men accept that when we accept their invitations to take us out, or to be in our presence, it does not automatically mean we have any romantic inclination towards them? That it might be just because we think we will appreciate their company? Why do they insist on interpreting signals of friendliness as signals of flirting?

Wake up: the friendzone is not a negative thing, fellas. It is just our buffer in the social network of the modern age. We didn’t tell you guys to get into it. You did that yourselves. But no, according to Doc Jazz in his opening lyrics, he got lured into it, of course. Typical, just like blaming the girl for the clothes she wears, instead of blaming the man who harassed her. And when Doc Jazz says ‘gotta get out of the friendzone’, he makes it sound like he is taking revenge, because at the end of the song, according to the lyrics, the lady will predictably ‘regret’ having lost him not only as a romantic partner, but also as a friend.

No, no, Doc Jazz. The lady actually won. Good riddance. Go, and go quickly, because you are clearly not at the advanced level of civilization where you should be. In fact, you are not ready to be with any woman at all. You are, actually, a sugar-coated Andrew Tate, although most women unfortunately won’t immediately see that. That is exactly why it is your kind that we really need to be cautious of. 

A link to the song is posted here, as an object of study. Study this, ‘woke’ ladies of the world. This is the hidden toxicity that we are up against. And if you really are as ‘woke’ as I believe you should be, you will respond to this with the same objections that I have. Don’t cheer this on. If you are to comment at all, write something educational there! That is how we move forward.

Get out of the friendzone, indeed, Doc Jazz. Get into some education on class and gender struggles. We canceled Tate, but your kind, and we know there are multitudes of you, will follow soon. Unless you learn to respect women the way you really should.

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